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Welcome to my blog.I like writing,music,the great outdoors travel,shopping , new places,the adventure of marriage and the small pleasures of life.im just out going love to meet new people probobly the sweetest person ull ever meet!!

Friday, December 31, 2010

Has your relationship changed from OMFG to WTF here's some advise?

In the start of the relationship those breathless weeks and months having fun and being interested in each other is not a problem.But many longer term couples rate their relationship from 1-10 many would say 5-6
Did they fall out of love? Lose their attraction? Nope they simply get confortable  and subconsciously default like whatever works, But theirs working to do try these ideas!! Ladies always dress up fix your self for your man/husband so when he gets home from work or if you are going out you leave him with a OMG expression ,always spoil him make him his favorite food, take baths together ,have allot of alone time and most important communication is key, always let him know if you loved what he bought you for your b-day or Christmas or Wat you dislike that he does.Guys women like to be told they are pretty no matter if they just woke up and they look like they just came out of a insane home! Take her out to dinner let her know you enjoy every minute with her, let her know you love her thank her for the sweet things she does even if they r the smallest things shell appreciate it.Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something. They're trying to find someone who's going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take.A relationship is like a rose. How long it lasts, no one knows but you have the power to make it work. Problems in relationship occur because each person is concentrating on what is missing in the other person and it shouldn't be that way then it ll never work out.When we initially fall in love, we feel we have found “the perfect person.” A tremendous excitement takes over. We project many wonderful qualities upon our partner and block out any faults. Then we feel that we, too, must be so wonderful to have a partner who is so ideal. For many there is the feeling that they have finally discovered someone who will be able to give them all the love, approval and inspiration they have sought all their lives.
We are meant to live a life of love. However, no matter how successful some are in other aspects of their lives, they wonder if it’s possible to have the same success in love. Although things may start out wonderfully in the beginning, there is always the fear that it won’t last, that difficulties will arise, feelings will start to change. Then when things alter, as they naturally must, many have the mistaken idea that the love is disappearing. . They wonder what went wrong.
Nothing went wrong. Change is natural and inevitable. It does not mean that the love has gone away. That is a mistaken idea of what love is. We simply have to know what love is, and how to keep it growing, through all the ups and down The work of love is the work of learning to accept the other person, and also to accept yourself. Love is not a feeling that stays the same all the time. Love is a verb. It grows as we face change and difficulty. Love grows through actions we take, through understanding and through developing the ability to really know who the other is and to really become their friend. A feeling that is here one minute and gone the next cannot be called love so don't confuse it. I hope these tips helped please keep reading on part 2 coming soon!!











Thursday, December 23, 2010

How can love turn so evil?

I cant tell you Wat evil love maybe or domestic violence i can only tell you Wat it feels like.I seen it heard friends stories seen family destroy their relationships with physical abuse how sad. Domestic violence is a pattern behavior a man or women in which uses physical violence,threats,intimidation,emotional,economic abuse,control over partner,stalking,harassing.I will never understand how can someone say they love a person and yet hurt them its insane.Its crazy how a women or man can stay in a abusive relationship why do they stay I can honestly say because when you love someone with all your might and power then you try to put your whole heart and soul into making it work between you, hoping you will come out in the end together strong and happy. But in most cases no, it don't work, but  thankfully people manage  and no longer suffer at the hands of their abuser.Its like the Rhianna song just gonna stand there and watch me burn but that's alright because i love the way it hurts just gonna stand there and hear me cry but that's alright because i love the way you lie.I would like to say once he or she acts strange  start with sarcastic comments, silly little name calling , telling you no other person will  loved you or like you, telling you your family and which friends I had left all don't like you. Then you Will have no self confidence and  struggle to have any because when someone tells you you are ugly or stupid every day of your life it is hard to find that you are no other than that.Please leave before its to late and you may end up dead if they abuse you once its mostly certain that they'll do it again and again at times you will think wow they are  changing its going great and then they snap at any little thing  and its the same story repeating you eventually loose count of how many times you got hit. One thing i know their is no excuse for anyone to hurt a person not even if they are traumatized of their childhood past or they seen their parents fight allot ect... their is no excuse!!For all people who have gone through this kind of situation just want to say your a survivor you have strength believe in your self that you have the strength to move forward with your life you want to get in a stage where your past does not affect your everyday life you have choices don't blame yourself of the choice you made in the past praise yourself value yourself take any guilt off your shoulders start to achieve Wat you wanted to achieve in life move towards happiness.change that bad memory in your past in to hope for your feature.

Friday, December 3, 2010

What 'LIFE' means to me!!

Life is really hard to understand trust me i know.It is always the simple things that change your life and theirs these things that never happen when you are looking for them to happen.It's hard to accept, but you can't change the past. You can't go back and manipulate things to the way you wanted them to happen. Because life'd be meaningless and boring and just not worth living. But you can change the future and that's a beautiful thing about life. Yes, you will make mistakes. And yes, you will have bad days  but as long as you let the past go, you'll have such a gorgeous and bright future ahead of you. Knowing that things were meant to happen. Knowing that each day you will learn something so that you keep growing to be a better person. Life work's in mysterious Ways and yet you have the chance to do something amazing from it. So grab hold of it.
I never regret anything that has happened to me in my life, whether it is making a bad choice, deciding to do something I shouldn't have, saying the wrong thing or not doing something i should have done...because all of these things have given me the knowledge i have today and helped make me who Am today... and that is one thing I will never regret. I just dont undertsand how people can see life has
 how many people you've dated, are dating, or haven't dated at all. It isn't about who you've kissed, what sport you play, or which guy or girl likes you. Life it's not about your shoes or your hair or the color of your skin or where you live or go to school. In fact, it's not about grades, money, clothes, or colleges that accept you or not. Life isn't about if you have lots of friends, or if you are alone, and it's not about how accepted or unaccepted you are. Life just isn't about that. But life is about who you love. It's about how you feel about yourself. It's about trust, happiness, and compassion. Life is about avoiding jealousy, overcoming ignorance, and building confidence. It's about what you say and what you mean. It’s about seeing people for who they are and not what they have. Most of all, it is about choosing to use your life to touch someone Else's in a way that you are not just satisfying yourself but someone else too. Also on a serious tip girls ya need to respect yourself first in order for ya to want guys or any one to respect you back.Females feel pretty and constantly hating on each other and people ya just need to stop being followers and be leaders if he smokes then she smokes too and if the females cloth is not tight guys wont like her seriously if you stop and Think its ridiculous!I know that god has a plan for each of us and that's why we suffer at times go through tough times so at the end we go through the path we were meant to and find happiness we meet people some we never See again some you wonder what happened to them? some you wonder if they ever think about you some you wish you never met but u did its all part of how life works and if people can see it peoples life would be allot better and they'll see things more in a positive way and yes we get let down by the people we love  and yes you'll eventually lose someone close to u  but take allot of pictures enjoy life laugh allot because every second your angry or upset is a minute of happiness you'll never get back.Life has no meaning its just a journey with a destination you decide how you want it to keep going and end so please make good choices.

Monday, November 8, 2010

Is blood really thicker than water?

Is blood thicker than water this means that your "blood relatives" are more important than any other situation might occur in your life.The reason this is my title is because everyone says family is important and i agree to a certain point.I think family can be the best thing people can have and family can also be your worst nightmare.Family is always great when your small but when you start growing up making your own decisions and your mom or sister or dad don't like it then the arguments start and never end.Its funny because you'd think when your progressing in life your family will give you all the support to motivate you but the actually do the opposite.They just bring you down make you feel like shit.At this point you start questioning yourself is blood really thicker then water?I would want to think yes but the truth is the people you most love are actually the ones that always end up hurting you.In the end i think everyone needs their space and its better off to be distant.
family spend too much time finding other relatives to blame too much energy finding excuses for not being what they are capable of being, and not enough energy putting themselves on the line, growing out of the past and getting on with their issues.That's the simple truth.
I am not like that I am different... you could even call me unique. Unique because I am one of the few people who have morals and who have a heart that hates to see people suffer... I am different because when someone is down I help them up.Why can they just be grateful for haveing me in their life. I am not like them because I find no pleasure in hurting other people.For once i can truly see how my and other peoples families are.I can say now i don't care what anyone thinks of me or if they don't accept the choices i decide in life or if my hair isn't right or my shoes don't match my outfit i don't care all i care is that I'm me.. and I'm proud of my self even if no ones in my family may tell me it.For once I'm happy being where i wanted and secure and no one can take that from me or put me down. Iam who I am and people and family can take it one way or another... but at least I'm living honestly.This is how i define family at least mine but in the end their blood and you cant run away from that just deal with them and hoping to get back aloot of love! Because thats all i want!!

Wednesday, October 6, 2010

What i cant live without! "MUSIC"

If theirs something in the world that i have to listen to and always have in my life is music.Music to me is like expressing how you feel.I cant speak for everyone but for me i can relate to music life experiences emotional feelings and most of all encouragement and memories.Music makes you think makes you feel when your sad u listen to r&b when your hyper or just want to party reggaeton or techno or anything that makes you wanna get up and dance.I think the love for music is something everyone can relate too because who doesn't listen to music no matter Wat kind it is.I love all talented artist who come up with  these great songs because music its means the world to me.When i hear a song i like its like I'm a little girl again so happy that my parents got me a new toy i replay the song over and over till another one comes up and i replay that one.It makes me wanna dance all day or sing all day just enjoy life more.Songs tend to play an important part in our lives. Music is the universal language of love and explains our inner most feelings through its rhythm. songs are not only known for their melodies, rhythms and beats, but most of all they are known for their lyrics. These beautiful words explain those inner most thoughts when we are at a loss of words.Although i don't like those rappers who rap about how gangster they are how many girls they sleep with i think its immature and rappers sing about it so much kids get inspired to b like them i say its not right and rappers should be more like a better influence than a bad one!Music is the best thing that god created and for that I'm thankful its a the beat the lyrics and everyday theirs new songs coming out and another that i enjoy and love.That's why music is one thing i cant live without because believe it or not i helps you get threw tough times.what can i say I love music!

Monday, September 20, 2010

The two little mans in my life that makes me smile everyday!

Ive carried two child's withing my body. Ive comforted them on my chest and kissed their boo boos when they got hurt.I have been pooped,peed,puked on.I have woked up in the middle of the night with feverish kids.But i wouldn't have it any other way because my kids are my greatest blessing and when i look at my self in the mirror I'm so proud to be Danny Cabral and Cristian Cabral mother.I just want my kids to know that just by looking into their eyes i see all the reasons why my lives worth a thousand skies.Loving my kids is the simplest thing i know how to do and i want then to know that they'll never be alone cause ill be their if they fall and sooth them if their hurt they are my greatest love of all!I think that the only way that you can call yourself a mother is if you give at least a few minutes of your time each day.I love my two kids so much because they are so  adorable, fun, hyper, caring,lovable their the best gift i could have received and i wouldn't want it any other way! When my kids aren't by my side i feel so sad if i could id be by them every single minute making them laugh and hugging them.I hurt if their hurt and i feel happy if they are cause i know I'm doing my job right.Being with my kids makes me learn things and i also teach them things how to be a better person and never give up and no matter how many time i put them in time outs i still love them.I seen the movie precious the other day i honestly cant believe how a mother can just hurt her child do much in every way possible verbally,and physically.Why  some mothers can be so selfish i just can say if a mother don't love her child that she has had for 9 moths in her belly then she cant love anyone at all not even her self.I hope my kids know that that can count on me for anything and hope that in the night when they are cold i can be their warmth.I hope that when they cry i can be their and  make their troubles go away.I'm the type of parent that gives their kids anything even when i don't have  but its the smile on their face that counts.I hope one day that my two kids can say I'm proud to have the mother i have cause I'm so happy to have my two Lil mans in my life! I wouldn't give that up for anything in the world my kids come first always!!

Friday, August 27, 2010

My love story




It was summer 2004  when i seen him coming up those stairs at the train station in new jersey! I was visiting my dad hadn't seen him in 4 years or had gone to new jersey for 4 years.My sis introduced us she called him to come meet me so he came funny thing is that we seen each other pics we both said wed never like each other.So when i seen him after he got up the stairs its like right then at that moment cupid hit me and him with an arrow cause it was love at first sight! When we looked at each other its like the world stops and the only one moving was us.But all i know is that our love was so strong that no one could have separated us or get in between and we fought for it till finally we ended up together.In my case my parents tried to separate us but couldn't.After that the rest is history we been together ever since!when he was gone to work id sleep with his shirt so i can still smell n kinda fell as if he was next to me god how crazy does love make you hu!Hes like this perfect guy just made for me he makes me smile he makes me laugh he makes me happy when I'm sad!He just brings out the best of me!Its like he was born for me and i was made for him. Its like from the beginning i have been blessed to have him in my life and i know now as long as i live i will always love you i promise you this.Their is nothing i wouldn't give for him. Hes the reason i believe in love cause at one point i almost gave up.I love him so mush i feel like my life wouldn't be complete if he wasn't by my side. I took a chance with my heart and will never regret it!I'm so glad to have him and i know it ain't easy loving me i appreciate the love and dedication from you to me!I will love you from the dephs of my soul its beyond my control.I thank you for all the joy you brought to my life for all the love i found in you.I love you because you lift me up and never let me fall.I could just stay awake just to hear him  breathing watch him smile while he is sleeping and wondering if its me he is seeing. I swear i could stay lost in this moment forever every moment i spend with him i treasure.I love laying close to him feeling his heart beating cause i know its beating that way for me,and i kiss him and thank god we are together!Being with him makes me realize i don't need anyone else!For those who haven't fell in love one day someone will walk in to your life then you realize love was always worth waiting for.Boo i wrote your name in my heart and forever it ll stay!Loving you its easy cause your beautiful.I changed in so many ways for one reason you!Dedicated to him!